Posts Tagged ‘grief support’

Happy Mothers Day from Evergreen Washelli

Friday, May 3rd, 2013

Feel free to drop by our Seattle location for your complimentary bookmark – Our way of helping you celebrate mom this Mothers day.

 mothers day poster

I’ll Celebrate Instead of Cry

                                               by Kelly Roper

Another Mother’s Day is here,
And I still miss having you near.
You were the best mom you could be,
And I never once doubted your love for me.

I could spend each Mother’s Day in sorrow,
Crying and wishing you were here,
But instead I choose to celebrate your life,
A life I still hold so dear.

I know you’d rather see me smile
Than stand here with tears in my eyes.
So I’ll do my best to honor your memory,
And you’ll live on as long as I am alive.

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Winter Grief, Spring Healing

Sunday, April 7th, 2013

Special thanks to John Pete and opentohope.com for sharing this article.

This time of year can be especially difficult for many who are grieving a personal losses. The December holidays have come and gone, and the days are long and dreary for many. It sometimes feels as if the warmth of Spring may never get here, but instead of waiting for light at then end of the long dark tunnel of Winter, you can create a beacon of light for yourself!

You have the power to inspire renewal and hope within yourself at times when you may need it most. Many of us enjoy special gardens and other projects that foster healing while also honoring our loved ones. And the long winter days and nights can be a perfect time to start planning ahead.

Spring is just around the corner.

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Grief Can Cause Loss of Confidence; Spring Can Help it Rebound

Monday, April 1st, 2013

Special  thanks to Kim Meredith and opentohope.com for sharing this article.

All of us have it. But we can lose it temporarily. Yet, all of us have the power to find it again too. 

Confidence is the extra battery pack that fuels our inner spirit. It propels us to greater achievements and encourages us to walk through doors that we might otherwise avoid. 

We all need that extra boost when life challenges us. Walking in for our first job interview, we needed to make a good impression. Confidence gave us an edge. This positive inner force helped us to stand a little taller and to feel a little stronger. 

“Confidence comes naturally when your inner life and your outer life are in harmony.” (Unknown) 

But just as we can feel its power, so can we feel its erosion. Waxing and waning like moon, our spirit changes with the phases of our self assurance. Loss can eat away at our confidence like a wood chipper devouring a mighty oak. Once strong and tall, it is reduced to a pile of small helpless pieces. 

This troublesome force can come from the temporary decline of ability or status, or through the loss of a job. Its source may be the deterioration of a relationship or from the death of a loved one. All create voids and those open spaces tug at our security. Like a sand castle, our confidence is delicate, unique, and admired by others. But one wave of tragedy can surprise us and in an instant wash away all of our hard work. With the outgoing tide goes its grains and leaves us without its energy. 

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s confidence.” (Unknown) 

Grief’s grip can diminish us. It makes us feel smaller and more vulnerable. It is an uncomfortable sensation and casts a shadow on our self-worth. 

Right after I was widowed, my confidence took a big drop. I was unsure of myself, and I did not know if I was ever going to be able to make a rational decision ever again. Life was overwhelming, and I just wanted to retreat like a turtle into a shell for protection. The gauge on my confidence meter was on empty. For many days, I hid my swollen eyes behind my large sunglasses. My voice was weak and my steps were tentative. 

Then came Spring. The earth was warming up and through the gift of time and patience, my spirit started to come alive again. As the bulbs poked through the cold, damp soil, I started to feel myself heal a little. 

While I was processing my loss, I observed the wondrous cycles of nature and God’s magic. Once hard, frozen and snow-covered, I could now smell the loose, rich dirt of my flowerbeds and small purple crocuses greeted me with their delicate blossoms. The bright yellow daffodils laughed in my face and the trees lost their sharp bare outlines with the appearance of soft puffs of tiny petals. Out of the dormant winter came another chance at life with all of its vibrant color and beauty. 

“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.” (Robert Frost) 

It was time for me to awaken from my bleak season of grief and to move forward and to live fully again. Through the help of family and friends, I was able to work through my pain and slowly my true inner self returned. I felt the invisible piles of my confidence rising and lifting me back up to be strong and tall. 

“Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.” (Marie Curie) 

Spring is a wonderful time of year. It reinvigorates us and gives us a sense of hope. It makes me feel particularly strong. But I am not foolish enough to think that I will never lose my confidence again. Most likely, there will be another storm and once again I will watch my confidence crash on a rocky shore. But I have lost it before and I found it: so I know that I can do it again and so can you. 

Treat yourself to a big spring bouquet of flowers and celebrate the energy of the season. Examine the individual blossoms and notice their beauty and intense colors. Remember, they were once small, dull bulbs buried in the dark earth. Get close enough to smell their fragrance and the sweetness of life. It is a season to break out and to be your best. You deserve nothing less! 

Happy Spring! 

 

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4th Annual Wreaths Across America

Friday, March 1st, 2013

 

Saturday, December 14th, 2013 – 9:00 AM

Evergreen Washelli Memorial Park

11111 Aurora Ave N. – Seattle, WA 98133

Evergreen Washelli Memorial Park is hosting an annual wreath laying ceremony in conjunction with the Navy Wives Club of America, Totem #277 and Wreaths Across America.

This year Evergreen Washelli will be celebrating veterans buried within its Veterans’ Cemetery section on December 14th, 2013 at 9:00 am. Following a brief ceremony there will be laying of donated wreaths by volunteers.

This special wreath laying ceremony is to occur simultaneously with Arlington National Cemetery and other Veterans Cemeteries in all 50 states (such as the one at Evergreen Washelli) along with veteran’s burial grounds around the globe.

Wreaths Across America organizes this event with the message of remembering our fallen heroes, honoring those who serve, and teaching our children about the sacrifices made by veterans and their families to preserve our freedoms.

This event is being made possible through donated funds and hard work done by the Navy Wives Club of America. It is their vision that has made this 4th annual wreath laying ceremony possible.  Wreaths will be laid throughout the Veterans Cemetery and also at the graves of the Medal of Honor recipients. One wreath for each branch of service will be displayed at Evergreen Washelli’s Doughboy statue in memory of all who have served.

It is interesting to note that each section with the Veterans’ Memorial Cemetery was named for a battle in which the United States Armed Forces participated. Bronze plaques in keeping with the military theme identifying each section of Evergreen Washelli’s Veterans Cemetery were contributed by the Puget Sound Navy Yard at Bremerton.

Donations and Volunteers are needed,  If you would like to participate in this year’s wreath laying ceremony, please contact Lorraine Zimmerman of the Totem #277 Navy Wives Club of America.  Or for more information about this event, please contact Brenda Spicer at Evergreen Washelli, 206-362-5200. For wreath donations, please refer to the link http://www.wreathsacrossamerica.org/store/individual-wreath-sponsorship/ for more details. Donations need to be received by November 26, 2013 in order to benefit the 2013 wreath laying ceremony. 

About Evergreen Washelli’s Veterans Memorial Cemetery Arlington National Cemetery is America’s most renowned veterans’ cemetery, but for the Seattle-area veterans and their spouses, being interred in Virginia would greatly hinder their loved ones from being able to visit their graves as often as they would prefer, especially prior to the jet age. As early as 1904, local veterans of the Spanish America war began to search for ways to honor their fallen comrades with a local cemetery of their own, but the start of the First World War delayed their efforts. Their search finally ended in 1927 when Clinton S. Harley, then General Manager for Evergreen Washelli, a veteran of the Spanish America War himself, offered a large section of the cemetery for the burial of veterans and their spouses. Today Evergreen Washelli has over 5000 Veterans in its care.

Last year’s ceremony was covered by Seattle’s KING TV and its affiliates, the video is available below.

King 5 Coverage of 2012 Wreaths Across America Ceremony

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Making Lemonade: Building on Life’s Challenge

Sunday, February 17th, 2013

Special thanks to Harriett Hodgson and OpentoHope.com for sharing this article

Turn Lemons to Lemonade

Almost everyone has heard the saying, “When life sends you lemons, make lemonade.” In 2007, I received a bushel-full of lemons: the death of my daughter, death of my father-in-law, death of my brother and only sibling, death of my former son-in-law, and becoming guardian of 15-year-old grandchildren.

Six years have passed since I suffered these multiple losses. Now I’m able to see my recovery journey more clearly. To be honest, I’ve surprised myself. Where did the courage come from? How did I make lemonade?

First, I made a conscious decision to choose happiness. At my age and stage of life, I knew happiness was a choice, not an accident. Death was not going to defeat me and life was going to be the winner. Raising my grandchildren was my new life mission, a mission my husband shared. At the time, neither my husband nor I knew raising grandkids would tug us out of grief and push us towards the future.

I made lemonade by accepting emotional pain, and it was crushing. Pain seeped into every thought, every limb, every bone, every cell. Yet deep in my soul, I knew my recovery journey started with pain. It wasn’t an easy starting place, yet was a place to “park” for a while. Meditation, prayer, and quiet helped me cope with the pain of grief, and I think they will help you.

I made quiet time part of each day. When someone we love dies, we tend to avoid silence because we don’t want to be alone with our thoughts. Truth is, we can never outrun grief and it will find us sooner or later. Silence helped me find the answers to questions, identify the action steps I needed to take, and craft a new ife. In the silence I found a wellspring of strength to draw upon again and again.

Writing was my first action step and, like grandparenting, it pushed me towards the future. When people ask me how I became happy again, my first answer is “writing.” If you’re overwhelmed by grief now, I hope you will write in a journal, write poetry, or a book about your journey. Affirmation-writing may also help you.

Speaking about loss, grief, and grief recovery was another way I made lemonade. I’ve spoken to church groups, service groups, regional and national conferences. You may be at a point in your grief journey when you’re able to share your story. Stories link us together and give us strength. My speaking experiences have led to new friendships and I treasure every one.

Making lemonade also meant I was going to enjoy the miracle of my life. I’m alive and still have time to do some of the things I want to do. The greatest joy of my life, other than marrying my husband and having two daughters, has been watching my grandchildren grow into responsible, caring, motivated adults. They are finishing their junior years in college and my husband and I plan to be at their graduations.

Your lemonade recipe may differ from mine. Instead of writing, you may join a support group, read books about grief reconciliation and recovery, participate in blogs, take a course, attend a conference, or join a national organization, such as The Compassionate Friends. Though our recipes differ, making lemonade means you’re doing your grief work and taking care of yourself.

Let’s make lemonade together!

Copyright 2013 by Harriett Hodgson

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Daily Positive Affirmations

Sunday, February 17th, 2013

Special thanks to Catherine Greenleaf and HelloGrief.org for sharing this article

Daily Positive Affirmations

What’s the big deal about positive affirmations, really? Actually, it is a really BIG deal. The way you think, about yourself, and about your life, determines what kind of experiences you will have. We manifest our fate every step of the way, through our dreams, imaginings, projections, and expectations. But most especially it’s how and what we think about ourselves that determines how happy we will be.

Researchers have conclusively shown that when we think positive thoughts, we enjoy enormous short-term and long-term benefits. So, if faced with a choice of positive or negative thoughts, why not go with positive and see what happens? It’s like seeing your glass half full instead of half empty. The glass has the same amount of water in it either way. So why not see the glass as half full?

Positive affirmations are thoughts and sayings you can repeat to yourself out loud or silently in your head. Positive affirmations are designed to help uplift your mind, body and soul. Instead of putting yourself down every time you make a mistake, imagine telling yourself nice things, like: “It’s okay to make mistakes,” or, “Who I am is good and I’m good enough.”

Unfortunately, as loss survivors, we can end up flooded with negative messages. Usually these are messages we send ourselves, about not being good enough, not being a good parent, spouse, child, etc. Then if we do get criticism from family or relatives, we internalize it with more negative statements about ourselves. The damage this negativity does to our self-esteem and self-worth is incalculable. But with practice, we can control our thoughts and improve our sense of well-being.

I was mired in negativity after the suicide death of my loved one. I couldn’t even drop a fork on the floor at dinnertime without calling myself “stupid.” I was miserable and knew I needed a radical shift in my life. That was when I was introduced to the power of positive affirmations.

How to get started: Start listening to the “committee” in your head. Are you constantly criticizing yourself, calling yourself names, putting yourself down? If that is the case, you don’t need anyone to degrade or humiliate you — you are already doing it to yourself!

The key with positive affirmations is repetition. The more your subconscious mind hears positive words, the more these thoughts will manifest in your life. It is always exciting to start noticing for the first time when your positive thoughts start to outweigh your negative thoughts. Although this may take a while, and require persistence and commitment, the pay-off is well worth all the work!

Try this: for the first several weeks that you try out affirmations, call yourself “Sweetie.” When you drop something on the floor, say, “It’s okay, Sweetie.” When you forget something and have to come all the way back home, say to yourself, “It’s okay, Sweetie.” If you do this long enough, the positive in your subconscious will start to outweigh the negative and you will start to feel better about yourself and the world around you.

You will start to notice your relationships getting better — much better! Healthier and more encouraging people will literally start to show up, and more importantly, you will start to notice them! When we were once mired in negatitivy we didn’t even notice when someone nice was around because we were too busy being cynical and pessimistic about our chances of finding someone nice. But the affirmation: “I deserve unconditional love at all times,” will get you to a new and wonderful relationship very quickly.

Besides love relationships, positive affirmations create improvement in dealing with family members, bosses and co-workers on the job, friendships, dealings with neighbors, as well as any dreams you have for yourself in the future. Positive affirmations help us get through disappointment, rejection, and deep grief and keep us looking forward to living life in the moment.

Please remember, after a loss the last thing we need to do is beat up on ourselves. After my own suicide loss, this was especially true.  This is a healing time for you, a time to nourish yourself as you recover from your grief. This is a time to treat yourself well!

Catherine Greenleaf is a suicide loss survivor, and author of the highly acclaimed book, Healing The Hurt Spirit: Daily Affirmations For People Who Have Lost a Loved One to Suicide. She is a spiritual counselor and a member of the Association for Death Education and Counseling. She travels nationwide to speak to suicide loss survivors about how to persevere after suicide loss.

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Hugging Them In Your Heart

Wednesday, February 6th, 2013

Hugging Them in your Heart

Special thanks to Maureen Hunter and HelloGrief.org for sharing this article.

Our missing can hurt so very much…sometimes every minute of every day. We hurt just to feel their touch and feel their hug. Oh what an indescribable feeling of joy it would be to be able to do that wherever and whenever.

We dream about it, we yearn for it. We’d love to turn back the clock for just a tiny moment in time. We’d love to wake up in the morning and find it was all a huge mistake and everything was as it once was. If only we could. If only there was one more hug, one more hello, one more “I love you”.

There can be no changing what has happened. There can be no going back, but there are ways we can keep them close, near us, by us. We never have to let them go. We keep them in our lives in the ways and moments that are beyond their physical presence alone. In those moments we surround ourselves with their essence, their memory, and their love. And for a moment in time we are hugging them again.

These are the moments that will come to us. These are the moments we will cherish and these are the moments we will clasp tight to our hearts and never let go of. Those moments that will bring a little of them into our lives once more.

Moments of Smell

Smell has the incredible power to transport us back to a happy memory, or to remember with love.

Buy their favorite fragrance, dab it on and feel the essence of them surround you once more. They are there in that moment, with you.

Cook their special recipes, the favorite meals you shared and inhale the smells of memory and connection.

Moments of Closeness

Wear their favorite shirt.

Hug their pillow.

Stitch their clothes into a memory quilt and wrap yourself in them every night.

Frame their forever t-shirt.

Make a photo collage of your special memories – see it, trace it, touch it as often as you want.

Moments of Communicating

Say your hello each and every day to their beautiful face.

Speak out loud and tell them what you always wanted them to hear.

Write your “I love you” to them in a beautiful notepad or special journal.

Caption their photos with the words they would be saying just for you right now.

Play their songs.

If you have a recording of their voice, listen to it, and hear their words.

Begin to notice the wonderful ways they come to you – in your remembering, in your sleep and in the signs that float into your life.

Your loved ones may have gone physically from your life but they remain always with you. As the days pass, as your emotions change as you begin to have moments where you are not thinking of them immediately know they are with you. As they always will be. You will never have to let them go. They are part of you as you are part of them.

Your loved ones stay cherished and forever loved in the sacred spaces of your heart and in the sanctuary of your mind. It is in those places where you can reach in and hug them always.

Maureen Hunter is an inspirational writer and grief steps mentor giving comfort and hope to many. She is passionate about helping people to step through grief and build a new and different life after loss, one in which their loved one is always a part of.

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3rd Annual Wreaths Across America

Thursday, November 29th, 2012

Saturday, December 15th, 2012 – 8:45 AM

Evergreen Washelli Memorial Park

11111 Aurora Ave N. – Seattle, WA 98133

Evergreen Washelli Memorial Park is hosting an annual wreath laying ceremony in conjunction with the Navy Wives Club of America, Totem #277 and Wreaths Across America.

This year Evergreen Washelli will be celebrating veterans buried within its Veterans’ Cemetery section on December 15th, 2012 at 8:45 am. Following a brief ceremony there will be laying of donated wreaths by volunteers.

Capt. Peter M. Dawson, US Navy, Commanding Officer Naval Base Kitsap

Our guest speaker this year is Captain Peter M. Dawson Captain Pete Dawson was born in Corvallis, Oregon.  He graduated from Oregon State University, received his commission at Officer Candidate School, went to the United States Naval Nuclear Power School, Reactor Prototype trainer, and Submarine School before reporting to his first submarine assignment onboard USS KEY WEST (SSN 722) in August 1985.  His first shore assignment was as NROTC Instructor at Rice University in Houston, TX.  CAPT Dawson then served as the Navigator and Operations Officer onboard USS BALTIMORE (SSN 704). He then attended the Naval War College followed by a tour as the Submarine Operations Officer at HQ NAVSOUTH in Naples, Italy.  His third submarine assignment was as Executive Officer in USS FLORIDA (BLUE) (SSBN 728).  After a Federal Executive Fellowship at the RAND Corporation in Santa Monica, CA, CAPT Dawson attended Prospective Commanding Officer School and was assigned as the Deputy for Engineering and Readiness at Submarine Squadron Seventeen. He then reported as the first Commanding Officer of Naval Submarine Support Center Bangor, WA .  Following a tour as Deputy for Tactical Development at Submarine Development Squadron Five, he served as Deputy Chief of Strategy for Multi-National Forces, Iraq before reporting to Submarine Group Nine as the Deputy Chief of Staff for Strategic Forces and Nuclear Weapons (N9) and Readiness and Training (N4).  He took command of Naval Base Kitsap April, 2011. 

CAPT Dawson’s military awards include the Bronze Star, the Defense Meritorious Service Medal, Meritorious Service Medal (three awards), Navy and Marine Corps Commendation Medal (three awards), and the Navy and Marine Corps Achievement Medal (two awards).  

He holds a Bachelor of Science (Chemistry) from Oregon State University, a Master of Arts (National Security Affairs) from the Naval War College, and a Doctorate of Philosophy (Political Science) from Rice University. He lives with his wife, Laurie, and their children Sarah, David, and Gideon in Seabeck, WA.

This special wreath laying ceremony is to occur simultaneously with Arlington National Cemetery and other Veterans Cemeteries in all 50 states (such as the one at Evergreen Washelli) along with veteran’s burial grounds around the globe.

Wreaths Across America organizes this event with the message of remembering our fallen heroes, honoring those who serve, and teaching our children about the sacrifices made by veterans and their families to preserve our freedoms.

This event is being made possible through donated funds and hard work done by the Navy Wives Club of America. It is their vision that has made this 3rd annual wreath laying ceremony possible.  Wreaths will be laid throughout the Veterans Cemetery and also at the graves of the Medal of Honor recipients. One wreath for each branch of service will be displayed at Evergreen Washelli’s Doughboy statue in memory of all who have served.

It is interesting to note that each section with the Veterans’ Memorial Cemetery was named for a battle in which the United States Armed Forces participated. Bronze plaques in keeping with the military theme identifying each section of Evergreen Washelli’s Veterans Cemetery were contributed by the Puget Sound Navy Yard at Bremerton.

Donations and Volunteers are needed If you would like to make a donation or participate in next year’s wreath laying ceremony, please contact Lorraine Zimmerman of the Totem #277 Navy Wives Club of America.  Or for more information about this event, please contact Brenda Spicer at Evergreen Washelli, 206-362-5200.

About Evergreen Washelli’s Veterans Memorial Cemetery Arlington National Cemetery is America’s most renowned veterans’ cemetery, but for the Seattle-area veterans and their spouses, being interred in Virginia would greatly hinder their loved ones from being able to visit their graves as often as they would prefer, especially prior to the jet age. As early as 1904, local veterans of the Spanish America war began to search for ways to honor their fallen comrades with a local cemetery of their own, but the start of the First World War delayed their efforts. Their search finally ended in 1927 when Clinton S. Harley, then General Manager for Evergreen Washelli, a veteran of the Spanish America War himself, offered a large section of the cemetery for the burial of veterans and their spouses. Today Evergreen Washelli has over 5000 Veterans in its care.

Last year’s ceremony was covered by Seattle’s KING TV and its affiliates, the video is available below.

 

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15th Annual Holiday Remembrance Service

Thursday, November 15th, 2012

Join Evergreen Washelli on December 2nd to remember your loved one

Evergreen Washelli invites you, your family, and friends to join us in remembering your loved ones at our 15th Annual Holiday Remembrance Service Sunday, December 2nd, 2012

5:00 PM- Evergreen Washelli at Bothell: 18224 103rd Avenue NE – Bothell, WA

5:00 PM- Evergreen Washelli Tribute Center: 11111 Aurora Avenue North – Seattle, WA

Services include:

•Candle lighting ceremony

•Life tribute DVD

•Light refreshments

To have a photo of your loved one included in the Life Tribute DVD, email us or call the number below. Photos need to be submitted by November 25th, 2012.

For more information, please call 425.486.1281

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A Pinch of Sand

Tuesday, October 30th, 2012

“Those who died on Omaha Beach on the longest day are not forgotten and still live in the hearts of free men everywhere”

Written by Gregory “Skip” Dreps

I was a geology student at Southern Illinois University in Carbondale in the 1960s before I was drafted into the Army for duty in Vietnam. I was asked by an instructor to find the richest known mineral deposit on Earth. It was a single question final exam that we had all term to answer. Little did I know that for weeks I searched for the answer with a forensic eye for value based on riches. Was it where there was diamonds, oil, uranium, gold or fossils?

The question begged to define the word richest and it wasn’t in the ground where I would find its answer, but in my heart.

I grew up in Chicago and was blessed that my public education included periodic visits by World War II veterans. There I learned that the most expensive piece of Earth was in France in a place called Normandy. I remember clearly a pinch of that sand was worth many a man’s life or limb, and on the longest day in history it was worth the world.

My argument was worth a passing grade my instructor lamented after the term, but it was clearly not the answer for a course in forensic geology. The instructor remarked it was an abstract solution and suggested I should change my major to philosophy. I postulated that if I had a sample from Omaha Beach, and a day with an electronic microscope, I could prove the sand contained the richest mineral deposit in the remains of war where the greatest price was paid for my freedom and a free world. It would be another twenty years until my proof was discovered.

Earle McBride and Dane Picard were traveling across France conducting geologic fieldwork in 1988 when they took time out to play tourists at Omaha Beach, site of one of the most ferocious battles during the D-Day invasion more than forty years earlier. It was a miserably cold and blustery day. They tarried just long enough to scoop a sample of beach sand into a little baggie.

McBride, a professor emeritus in the Jackson School of Geosciences at the University of Texas at Austin, collects sand pretty much any chance he gets. By analyzing sand from modern dunes, beaches and rivers from a wide range of sites around the world, he can link the mineral compositions of ancient sandstones to the kinds of environments that forged them.

A few years after the French trip, he put the beach sand under a microscope and discovered tiny metal shards mixed in with the ordinary bits of quartz and other materials that he expected to see. Those shards turned out to be shrapnel from the famous World War II invasion. On closer examination, he also found iron and glass beads that had resulted from the intense heat unleashed by explosions in the air and sand.

“It is of course not surprising that shrapnel was added to the Omaha Beach sand at the time of the battle, but it is surprising that it survived forty-plus years and is doubtless still there today,” wrote McBride and Picard, currently a professor emeritus at the University of Utah, in an article for Earth magazine last year.

In the early hours of June 6, 1944, more than 160,000 Allied troops poured from planes and ships onto the heavily fortified shores of Normandy, France. Omaha Beach was one of five Allied landing points along a fifty-mile (eighty-kilometer) stretch of coastline.

“The battles were bloody and brutal,” wrote McBride and Picard, “but by day’s end, the Allies had established a beachhead.” It proved to be the turning point of the war. McBride was just twelve years old in 1944. I had not yet been born.

To analyze the sand, McBride first mixed the tiny grains with a blue epoxy, making what amounted to artificial sandstone, and then sliced it into thin sections. Under an optical microscope operating in transmission mode (in which light passes through the sample), he could see opaque grains.

In the 1960s, detectives with the Texas Department of Public Safety brought Earle McBride a sample of sand collected from the pant cuff of a murder suspect. They wanted to know if the suspect had been to the Rio Grande. Within seconds, McBride could tell that the sand was from the Colorado River near Austin. Some telltale signs: It had pink potassium feldspar grains derived from granite in the Llano region, which are commonly found in the Colorado River but not in the Rio Grande; and there were no sand grains derived from volcanic rocks, something common in sands from the Rio Grande but not from the Colorado.

“Unfortunately, that wasn’t the answer the police wanted, so I got dismissed,” he said. “That was my first foray into forensic science.” McBride’s sand collection is carefully stored in hundreds of bags and bottles in row after row of metal drawers in the basement of the Jackson Geosciences Building.

Adding another light source to see reflected light, the grains of sand from Omaha Beach appeared shiny, an unusual feature for naturally occurring minerals. The shard-like angularity of the grains suggested these were not naturally formed. Ordinary ocean wave action along the shore tends to blunt sharp edges. Other tests showed the metal shards contained large amounts of iron and were magnetic. At this point, he had no doubt these were pieces of shrapnel.

McBride reported that four percent of the sand is made up of these bits of shrapnel, ranging in size from very fine to coarse (0.06 to 1 millimeter). Because the beach surface is continually being reworked by wind and waves, a sample taken on another day might have yielded a different abundance.

He also found trace amounts of spherical iron beads and glass beads. Some iron beads were broken, revealing hollow centers. Using a scanning electron microscope, he was able to study the shape, texture and size of all three explosively produced structure types in greater detail.

McBride and Picard published their full results in the September 2011 edition of The Sedimentary Record, a quarterly journal of The Society for Sedimentary Geology (SEPM).

“Today, the only visible indications of the horrific battles fought at Omaha Beach are some concrete casements above the beach and nearby cemeteries that quietly mark the thousands of lives lost,” wrote McBride and Picard.

Gone are the wrecks of planes, ships and tanks, the shell casings, the scraps of rotted boot leather, and all the other detritus of war long since spirited away by generations of beachcombers. And so it fell to a pair of geologists to pluck one last relic from the sand, hidden under the feet of thousands of tourists every year.

Unlike the global layer of radioactive fallout from the 1950s atomic bomb tests that geologists and others now use to calibrate their tools for dating geologic materials, the microscopic fingerprint of the D-Day invasion probably won’t endure long.

McBride says the iron-rich shrapnel shards could probably withstand the scouring action of waves alone for hundreds of thousands of years. But studying the shrapnel grains under high magnification, he observed particles of iron oxide, or rust, created by a chemical reaction between saltwater and iron. Waves churn the iron fragments, which rubs off some of the rust and exposes fresh material, which is more amenable to rusting, which in turn gets rubbed off, and so on.

“The net result is these things will get smaller and smaller and then finally get carried away by storms or hurricanes and be taken out of the beach,” says McBride, “so their time is numbered.”

“The combination of chemical corrosion and abrasion will likely destroy the grains in a century or so,” wrote McBride and Picard, “leaving only the memorials and people’s memories to recall the extent of devastation suffered by those directly engaged in World War II.”

My military experience took me to Normandy twice in the 1970s. The first time was when I was selected as a jumpmaster to re-enact the 30th anniversary of the D-Day parachute assault in Eindhoven. Following the jump, a couple of us earned a three-day pass and headed off to visit the American Cemetery in Normandy and visited Omaha Beach. We walked the 7,000 yards of pristine sand alone; it took us a couple hours and we hardly said a word. The experience was so overwhelming we all forgot to take some sand, but we left with a memory that we would never forget.

We walked on the most expensive beach in history. The price paid there could not be measured in the more than nine thousand white stones in the cemetery or the families that they left behind, or never had; or the way that they could have changed the world, but didn’t get a second chance; and the cost for that longest day could not be measured in the years it took to plan for that moment when the first boat in the first wave hit the beach that started to turn the ocean red.

My second time in Normandy was a year later after I finished French Commando training in Kiel. Another three days free, following training patterned after the tactics developed by the French Resistance in World War II, I was determined to see the beach again to give my body time to heal from the three week school in urban warfare that included a brutal course in escape and evasion. My other classmates went to Paris and I travelled alone across France.

This time I didn’t walk the beach; I just sat for a long time in one spot and watched the waves meet the sand. I wanted to focus into a single pointedness my memory of the moment so I would never forget. Soon I made contact of sound with the sense organ of the ear; then by contact of smell with the sense organ of the nose; by contact of taste with the sense organ of the tongue; by contact of touch with the sense organ of the body; and by contact of mental objects with the sense organ of the mind.

It became clear that each grain of sand on that empty beach was not inert, but filled with life. A life-energy had been burned into it with a countless baptism of heroic spirit. If I could see into a grain of sand the 360 degrees of cutting surface with an electronic microscope, then I would also see in a grain of Omaha Beach sand forensic evidence that there had been a great battle fought here. Looking at it with my mind’s eye, I could see countless faces between every degree in every grain and in every face there was a peaceful smile.

I returned to my unit and left France for my station in Italy without a grain of sand from the beach, but with a new sense of what was important in life. I was a richer man for the experience. My travels had taken me twice to a place that contained the richest minerals in the world in a single grain of sand on a beach that was miles long and feet deep. I felt like I gained the wisdom of the richest king in the Bible; the greatest gift in life is freedom and that is what each grain of sand from Omaha Beach means to me.

It is a great comfort to know that even if in a hundred years, or thousands, all the grains of sand on Normandy’s Omaha Beach that witnessed the longest day disappear and are replaced, purified by Nature, we will still remember in stone in the cemetery the sacrifice to make Omaha Beach sand the richest mineral on Earth. One day, far away, when Nature turns even that stone to sand and disappears from beach to ocean, our children’s children will still remember.

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